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And on the other side of the coin: as for your sense of humor,
you've likely quite a beautiful laugh, and a nice smile. Your willingness
to listen to other people includes their jokes (even the really - not -
even - funny ones which no one else will do them the service of listening
to... XXXXXXX's there with a friendly ear) and you do definitely love to
laugh. Perhaps it's something to do with the fact that you can be so
serious so much of the time when you're in problem-solving mode: That
Order-Out-Of-Chaos technician inside of you can get pretty serious and
into her work, you know, so when you get a chance to laugh and get-down,
then you love to do so.
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You have learned in these last couple decades ways to be coy, to
try to please, to try and slip around and even resorting sometimes to
deception and deceit in order to assure to yourself that you're safe and
that you are still in control. Control is one HUGE issue for you...
mostly because you say that you feel you MUST be in control at all times,
to keep from repeating some of the incidents from the past.
But you know what? I'd present to you that I don't think it's so
much CONTROL you seek, as it is FREEDOM FROM SOMEONE ELSE'S CONTROL that
you seek. Do you understand the difference?
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And on the relationship front: You're quite a dreamy romantic on
the subject of relationship. You're not sure that you really believe your
perfect Dreamy Prince Charming is out there, because you have given him
quite a bit to have to live up to. You really like holding an idealized
version of relationship and partnership, and just as in your work world,
you actually kind of like the process of evaluation as new prospects come
into your sights. You have a tendency to have a manner much like a great
satellite observation dish which can silently and passively appear to just
take in LOTS of data about people when you first meet them, and you like
to mull that data over and over and make your internal evaluations before
you have to make a choice. You feel like you've still got quite a bit of
time to make that "perfect" choice, so no point in hurrying it. You
prefer to have made the RIGHT choice than the FAST one. Another motto.
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Ever wonder what that might suggest? Here's a hint: All of the
letters of the English language have only about three strokes in them:
Vertical strokes, Horizontal strokes, and Round strokes. And in general,
in our day to day writing, we're called upon to rather evenly strew them
around; some letters require more angular strokes and some require more
rounded ones, but pretty much, it's an even blend. Letters typically flow
fairly evenly from one to another, and it is unusual to have very many
letters tick back on themselves or compete with each other... The flow is
usually maintained throughout. And yet, some of us have a preponderence
to prefer to make one stroke over another, and in your case, certainly you
have a preference for loops and hooks.
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From a Couples Read:
Another interesting set of characteristics between the two of you
is how you complement each other in a couple of specifically useful areas:
Having to do with how each of you deals with people / neighbors /
strangers, etc. XXheXX tends to be the one who can do the best at moving
easily through a variety of people without getting affected by them
emotionally (ie attachments) but still can maintain an understanding and
relationship there with them. XXsheXX, on the other hand, can tend to
get a bit tied into things and might need to be extracated from time to
time by the less attached and masterful motion of XXheXX's ways. This would
be particularly useful when the two of you end up getting invited to
something which you really don't want to go to. XXsheXX if alone might
just end up going in order to 'acquiesce' or 'accomodate' the host. But
XXheXX, on the other hand, could take it or leave it, and wouldn't mind
quite effectively bowing out without hurting the host's feelings. If
XXsheXX tried that, it might come out either A) that the host felt a bit
of that "intensity / defense" mentioned earlier in the writing here; or B)
that the host ends up convincing you that you really wanted to come after
all, and you end up going and resenting having done so!
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One of other the things I see in your hand which I didn't mention
on the phone is the way you feel sometimes like you almost need to be
re-assured in personal things, even though in business things and out
there in general out in the world, you can kind of just sail on through
most anything. This, too, must be a source of conflict and confusion for
you, since you have such strong successes and competencies in the area of
business and the "transpersonal" things related to others and the world,
and yet have this 'shadow self' which has those strong needs of
reassurance.
This, I'm sure, relates to that point I was asking you about your
maternal grandmother (your mother's mother)... in that it's in the arena
of mother-needs / nurturing where there's some of the puzzle pieces
missing. Are you aware of what this might be about?
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In the case of your sample, probably the first thing which stands
out is the long swooping g in your last name. Looks like you appreciate
the "good life" there... you like those persian carpets and fine olive
oil, eh, and can get lost in the world of food?
I don't know that I mentioned anything specifically about that on
the phone when we spoke, but it's in there. What I know I would have
mentioned is your slow-to-warm-up way of looking at people in general...
how you're cautious and non-judgmental, yet more like a satellite dish
just kind of hanging out there waiting for its next signal.
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You have that chameleon 7 I was talking about... meaning that you
tend to like to adapt your principles to whatever situation you find
yourself in, and when necessary, will revise your principles according to
the group's needs. This can be confusing for some people around you who
truly want to know what YOU THINK, because you would prefer to be able to
give them what you think they want / need than what you really might
personally believe. Some call it flexibility; others call it hard to pin
down. Either way, it's definitely not always the best way to help people
get to know you. (And perhaps that's a part of its draw to you: to help
you maintain more of that "obscure" personality mentioned from your
signature above.)
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You do have a bit of a temper... tend to let things rather fly
when you feel them (and being a guy who feels first and thinks later, then
the intensity within youi can sometimes get out before you can even issue
a warning from the intellect!) You like to live life passionately and
connectedly, and just aren't one for sitting back and watching things go
by without any involvement! Just not your style.
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In the case of your sample, probably the first thing which stands
out is the amount of information you can cram onto one page! Interesting
exercise in miniaturizaion, eh? Perhaps instead of being a software
engineer, you might want consider being a firmware engineer at LSI or
Intel or something, actually writing the micro traces on ICs, etc!
Kidding aside... your mind is a very complex puzzle place. I'm
sure you know that, since you sort of live right there with it most of the
time. You clearly feel much more comfortable relating to people via a
keybaord than you do via handwriting... And for regular voice
communication, you probably tend to be a rather slow to warm up type...
ie: Like to have some distance between yourself and others early on, and
tend to keep your voice rather quiet until you are comfortable and feel
that you're on the inside.
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You were just a bit shy on patience, shall we say... But if you
were to send in another sample on down the road somewhere to compare with
this one, we could probably discern a notable difference in level of anger
vs peace... I am suggesting that this particular day was more one of those
difficult days of intensity in general. (We have some people who send in
samples every few months or so and then ask us to do what we call check-
readings, comparing traits we mentioned before with current state of the
handwriting... But you can do this yourself, too, by just writing a sample
like this every few months and seeing what you notice has changed. You
can usually see some of these things yourself, if you begin to train your
eye to get the feel of it. And if you get stumped and are particularly
curious about something you see, then use us again if you like.)
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The loopy in your two suggests your friendly disposition and like
of involvement from strangers / people in general... ie: You really like
to go out there in life and just see who people are and receive them as
themselves. You love to put your emotional velcro out there on the line
and link it on in with other people's. But lately, the SHAPE of the tail
of the two has more than likely gotten far more downtrodden and tentative
with your dissilusionment with the job situation. (These things are a
whole lot easier to SHOW than to TELL on paper here... if you were sitting
here now, I could show you what I mean, but it's difficult to describe in
detail here!) Suffice to say that you have that little frownly tail in
your two's now, which I'll bet wasn't there before. It seems incongruous
with the rest of your hand.
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You should also have some pretty strong writing skills, accounting
abilities, and even artistry about you... able to perhaps take up things
as diverse as accounting; scientific research; interior design (not just
as decorator, but actual full-scale design... more along the architecture
side of things: space utilization and that kind of thing); public
speaking / political activist; or full-scaled politician, willing to take
on some of the difficult issues and go head to head with the best of them
to bring information to your public and get things resolved. You're
clearly a strong and effective worker and don't mind diving right in! (I
don't know when this happened...your downsizing, but you should still be a
VERY employable person. You do not lack for skills, and a potential
employer will almost certainly immediately recognize your talent and
drive. If it is your desire to get another job, I don't think you'd be
long in the market!)
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As a child you may well have been called a 'know-it-all' because
of your uncanny ability to figure things out and your always having an
opinion about things. This may have led to some injured ego moments at
home and school as a child, but as an adult, these same skills have more
than once helped immensely. These skills can no doubt put you well out in
the forefront as a superior consultant, because you are able to pull
pieces together from so many different corners of an issue.
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That said, there are many positive points about relating with you,
as well. You are one to be super devoted to your work and your family,
especially when you feel you are sufficiently appreciated, honored and
respected. You will always go above and beyond the call of duty in work
and neighbor relationships, and though you might tend to be a little bossy
and territorial about your space (ie: don't like neighbors getting too
close to a property line, or co-workers to be infringing upon your space
or using your private stocks) still you can be counted upon to very well
uphold your responsibilities, and never let it be said that people have to
doubt what you think either about your place in the work-relationship or
project, or in your stance with neighbors or a neighborhood organization,
PTA, or that kind of thing: When you feel that you have the respect and
attention of those around you, you're very willing to precisely state your
willingness to work on a particular project, (or lack of willingness) and
let everyone know what you think at any point, anywhere along the way in
the process. When your are less certain of that respect and attention,
however, you may be less willing to risk taking a public point of view,
and you might go into 'Search Mode' to figure out what is "really" going
on with those around you instead of expending energy in taking a stance.
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In the case of your sample, probably the first thing which stands
out is the sense of conflict of image in your hand: the fact that you
have such an ostensibly outgoing hand (flowery full loopy strokes of Leo,
for instance, if we were to take Astrology in consideration) which would
suggest a sense of confidence and engagement, while at the same time quite
a notable backslope to the hand, with those repeated dents in your loops,
noticeable in your y, f, k, b, etc.
What does this mean? well, it suggests that you have some serious
internal FIRE going on in there, around issues of image and engagement.
On a good day in fine energy, you can no doubt be charming and kind,
engaging and very able to attract any attention you desire. And then on
the other side of the dichotomy of this, you can sometimes get super
defensive about ideas, images, judgments, principal issue, etc, when you
feel as though someone has challenged you and struck a little close to
home. It's likely tied to some childhood resentments of your perhaps
having to grow up a bit before your time. Did you perhaps have to take on
the parenting role for younger siblings?
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Marketing seems an odd job for you to be in. Are you happy there?
It would seem that Customer Service or Support might be a more reasonable and
satisfying place for you to be, because in marketing you often have to come
across as that 'STRONG' person of foundation and the emotional side of things
isn't so much a day to day need. But in the support or service side of
things, then your ability to empathize with your customer could really be
useful, and you should be able to effect a good relationship fairly easily
since you ARE able to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
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Basically, to answer your question as to what your handwriting can
reveal with it's "childish sloppy writing" as you call it, ... It reveals
that you are very cautious about declaring yourself to be 'right' or 'in
the know' and might suggest that though you may come across differently on
the surface, when it comes to your private view of things, you're all too
eager to take the blame for something and be quite hard on yourself for
how you come across to other people. Relationships are prbably something
which really set off your bells and whistles... You love to be loved,
need to be needed, appreciate being appreciated, and yet, are really quite
confused about how just to be yourself and be strongly confident about who
you are from the core outward. The reason for that would likely be
because it's hard for you to take that time to delve deeply into yourself;
your private censors will say, "Now, XXXXZZY... don't be spending so much
time on yourself! Get on out there and make a difference in the world!"
and, poof, there goes your private time.
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On the occasion of a Re-Read of a couple previous read sessions:
* You've certainly GROWN a lot since last time (though it's certainly not
like you were a groveling non-human before.) Just that since then you've
blossomed in ways you hadn't expected, and even from health issues and
relationship issues and work issues, you continue to grow. (Likely
literally, too... your hand suggests that there's more of you than there
was a year and a half ago. You're not pregnant are you? There seems to
be more SUBSTANCE to your physical being... you've 'moved into your body'
a bit stronger.)
* You're seeing work quite differently than you did before. You're more
comfortable being a part of the crew there where you are, and you're
enjoying your work for what it is, instead of trying to make it something
it isn't. And yet, at the same time, you're restless, and you keep
wondering "When's my NEXT ship coming in!?" (and probably more than just
a career ship, too. There's also a relationship ship, a spiritual
traveler ship, a peace with the family ship... lots of ships out there.)
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It's the kind of hand one often associates with an artist, thinker, poet,
writer: Kind of moody, sensitive, introspective and intensely interested
in everything around you as to what its message may be for YOUR life and
path. Right now in your life, though, it looks like you're feeling much
more vulnerable and "out there" than last time we spoke... Your baseline
is wandering all over the place, which usually parallels emotional (and
sometimes physical) distress.
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As you notice, your hand is a kind of combination between the two. Most
people as they grow and become more "themselves" will remember what they
choose to remember about the little green Zaner-Bloser / Palmer style sheet
cards above the chalkboard from elementary shool, and they'll forget what
they choose to forget.. with the net effect being that they end up bringing
in a little manuscript and a little cursive and will create their very own
style, personalized and reflective of their life.
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You say on your sample that you're a business executive. Hmmm... your
handwriting would suggest more that you work alone, that you much prefer
to be on your own in your work, and if you're an executive, then it would
be my guess that it's an executive on the move, and those you answer to
are NOT in your face on a day-to-day... It's definitely a unique version
of biz exec, then: Either exec'ing on your own alone, or you're on the
road and interacting with the PUBLIC during your biz work, but almost
certainly NOT the 9-5 "all day at the office, sitting behind your mahogany
desk with a white shirt and tie", type. That simply would not suit you!
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One trait I perceive in your hand (primarily due to the stroke of your
lonely little y's hanging off down there by themselves, and the way you
strike back through your first name to dot your i) is that there is likely
a pretty strong feeling of longingness in you, a wondering "Isn't there
something MORE than this?" You'd like more to SHARE your path, and that's
just not where you find yourself right now.
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In the case of your sample, probably the first thing which stands
out is the broad stroke you use to paint your life... That is, I'll bet
you don't slow down very much, and you tend to leave things partially done
here, partially done there, because you're ALWAYS trying to do so many
different things. And it's not that you're incompetent or incapable of
finishing things; quite the contrary. You just have so much interest in
new things all the time that you sometimes just go have to throw the
breaker on things-- as if on overload-- and one of the breakers you use is
to just start up something new again. Not a bad way to do it if you can
handle the flurry of activity it requires. But I'll bet you've heard more
times than once "Hey, ZZXXYYY, when are you going to come back to THIS!?"
Meanwhile, you're off and taking in new adventures and starting new
operations.
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And, right along the same lines of your pragmatic view of being
cautious in relationship: I can see that in general you don't tend to like
having lots of extraneous people around you; you much prefer hanging out
with only a very limited trusted few, though you often find yourself among
many people who might otherwise prove potential friends & supporting
roles. Yu might want to consider the possibility that to broaden your
sights a bit and open to the possibility that even people outside your
'normal' scope might have something to teach you about life, love, and
spiritual awareness. Your internal control forces which have for so long
kept some of those hatches slammed shut may well stand to benefit by
releasing a bit, and beginning to take a little more time to Smell some of
Life's Roses along the way. (Careers and Material things can indeed be
convinced to take a back seat to some of the simpler, emotional things in
life which at this time you tend mostly to shun and shy away from... Let
them a little nearer more often, and I'll bet you'd be a happier guy!)
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You have signs in your hand which would suggest that when you get
to talking to people, you first go into the conversation very tentatively,
mostly feeling out the situation, but once you have a niche from which to
operate, you can be almost non-stop output! You clearly have some strong
opinions and convictions on things, and definitely don't mind arguing, and
with such strong opinions, Law may be a good place for you in some ways.
But with your tandem hesitation about authority and control, then you
could be setting yourself up for some real stress if you were to, in the
course of your legal work, get pitted against someone whose opinions and
stances were contrary to yours, yet just as strong!
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First of all, I note that you are quite a sensitive fellow, and
yet, you are super hard on yourself. You mention that cursive was foisted
upon you at age 6 and that you haven't written right since. Well...
actually it's fairly normal for 6 and 7 year olds to be made to write in
cursive. Cursive assists in linking motor skills with emotional flow of
communication. It's more than just handwriting instruction. But early
blocks there are often indicative of something other than just merely a
case of handwriting. Is it possible that you may not have been taught to
write with the proper hand in the first place? Are you left handed abut
anything else you do? That does happen in some cases, and the effects can
be manifold and sometimes hard to track down.
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You were probably quite a brooding expressive teenager in those
melancholic teen years, weren't you? I'll bet you and your mother had
some serious rows! You probably kept an absolutely fascinating journal
since you were so committed to putting it all down on paper. But that's
probably a thing of the past now, eh? (and you've probably, due to your
almost paranoia about privacy and properness [are you a Virgo?], burned it
long ago!) With your newfound aptitudes in the social arena today, which
weren't as available to you as that brooding socially dramatic teen, you
nowadays are much more often able to process directly with people instead
of on paper as your emotions and your curiosities emerge. Still, though,
you'd very likely be someone who needs her space and her stage to sally
forth onto from time to time... You love your emotional expressiveness
and the way you can be something of a drama queen when it serves! Ahh...
the actresss in you emerges!
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You tend to be a very strong organizer, loving to get to the
bottom of an organizational scheme and look for hours and hours at all
the details of things. As such, family & friends' gossip gives you quite
a fascinating piece of investigative work to figure out... you love to be
'in-the-loop' when anything is going on, and are particularly adept at
playing hostess, party-assistant, or anything like this revolving around
getting large groups of people seamlessly socializing around a theme!
Weddings, Showers, Parties, etc... there are quite interesting to you if
you can do the organizing. (Ironically, however, when you are merely
expected to be just 'one of the masses', things get far less interesting
for you, and you may well almost prefer to curl up with a good book than
to have to be just an ornament at a party!)
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You sometimes find that you let people's feelings and ways get
into you... you like so to be able to understand, to feel, to relate to
people, and you don't like to argue or be misunderstood, and therefore
sometimes will not raise issues, even when you have irritations around
you. As a result, you likely tend to bottle things up a bit, and it is
in your writing & your self-discussions that you are able to resolve
these things better.
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You've really got an aptitude for coming at life with both sides
of your brain! This would also suggests, (like many of the renaissance
artists and great minds) that you may well have feelings of ambivalence
and inclusivity when it comes to choosing a particular phase of
relationship over another... that is: to be direct, you'd likely be
inclined to bisexuality, and comfortable with that aspect of yourself,
embracing both the strong and the sensitive within yourself.
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I can see that recluse though you may sometimes be, still you are
an exemplary co-worker & neighbor... always choosing to contribute above &
beyond the call: when you put in your 2 cents worth, it's always worth 25
at least! You like to think a lot, like to run things over in your head
again and again, whether it's in that reclusive nature or in the open.
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You have a strong sense of principles, and find solace in feeling
like though your day-to-day may seem aimless or confused or mislaid from
time to time, in the long run, you feel no squeamishness whatsoever that
all things will work out for the best. You have strong senses of the
connectedness of your life with Spirit & the Great Beyond (whatever that
may mean to you...)
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You probably have a real tug-o-war inside about getting involved
with people or just letting them alone; you have no trouble speaking with
and relating to people, but when it comes to a deeper more intimate
involvement in their everyday lives, that is likely to be much more of a
challenge for you: You would LOVE to trust everyone you meet, but your
experience has shown you that sometimes that's just not wise, and right
now (at least for the period around when you wrote this sample) you seem
to be having some memory ghosts coming in from 6 or 7 years ago when you
very likely had some difficult moments with trust and boundaries, and
that's resounding within things about now again. All of this plays itself
out in terms of relationship trauma / drama.
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Your hand in general suggests a moody nature, with a general
upbeat to your moodiness, yet a sometimes reclusive nature wherein you go
deep into your creative caves, to play with ideas & thoughts & memories &
plans, often to return to civilization with a beautiful product in hand.
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You have a quiet way about you in your partying-type social
interactions.... In these kinds of settings, you'd be the person who is
polite, kindly, helpful, etc. and yet moving on the periphery of things
in order to better collect data on what was going on with the 'performer'
types in center ring. People have always fascinated you, and you love a
system for better understanding them. You tend to have a kind of
idealized view of people in general, and don't like to write people off
too soon. As such, you are probably chided by some of your more callous
friends (because you would have friends from all walks of life) for being
somewhat of a PollyAnna & pushover because you won't just write people
off. You prefer to take friends for life, and like to see the best of
everyone rather than try to find reasons to separate yourself and others
from the masses.
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You have a strong sense of principles, and find solace in feeling
like though your day-to-day may seem aimless or confused or mislaid from
time to time, in the long run, you feel no squeamishness whatsoever that
all things will work out for the best. You have strong senses of the
connectedness of your life with Spirit & the Great Beyond (whatever that
may mean to you...)
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You're likely a cat-person, and you likely have an interestingly
off-beat sense of humor, for which you are appreciated among your close
friends (though many people may think you almost too serious to have a
sense of humor, because they really don't know you well enough?) When you
meet someone you really click with, you can just go on & on, but for that
first few meetings, or the early hours of a party / get together, you're
more one to be pensive & watching, with your satellite dish open & taking
it all in, so as to better understand in your cat-like curiosity &
reserve.
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You've got some strong strokes in your hand pointing to your
sometimes strong judgments of what's right & wrong, and who's conspiring
with whom for what purpose. You have a kind of dreamy & idealistic view
of relationship & principles in general, and therefore find yourself
quite often disappointed with traits & realities of people here on the
planet who can never quite live up to your rather high expectations. But
then, you have to admit, your high expectations are a little high for you
to reach even for yourself, either, and as a result you often almost have
a private little set of parents who live on your shoulders whispering
self-judgments and criticisms into your ear. (Maybe it'd be okay to
knock them off your shoulder sometime so you could have a pleasant little
time just hanging out without the judgments forever flowing in, and this
would likely cut some of the judgments & expectations flowing OUT,
thereby making your life a little less prone to disappointment at all.)
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The first thing that stands out about your hand is your quiet
nature, and tendency to be what I refer to as 'The Good Little Girl', in
that you prefer to accomodate people rather than confront them, prefer to
find ways where all sides can be seen & understood if possible, and prefer
almost above all, Harmony & Peace rather than dischord & disharmony.
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You absolutely LOVE to talk, and that's something you've gotten
down to an art. You find yourself linking into all kinds of people, and
whether or not you find them personally interesting, still you find you can
always find something to talk to each and every one of them, and that keeps
things interesting & on the move!
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One thing which stands out as a bit of a sore spot in you is
evident in the way you made three of four of your 7's... with the little
hook at the upper left, and the swooping rounded hump of the upper right.
This has a quiet little story to tell about something you may not want
told!, that being the way in which you might choose to handle gossipping
indiscretions which might come your way. Though quite natural in keeping
with your genuine kindly interest in most people you come in contact with,
something perhaps a bit judgmental or busy-body comes up with you when you
get into gossipping. You would tend to like best to be able to hear all
the dirt on someone and yet do so as transparently as possible, so that
you could still maintain a measure of 'plausible denyability' about it
all... "Who, Me?!" you could say in your best Shirley Temple innocence,
all the while having amassed a truckload dossier on the poor soul subject
of the discussion!
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Quite an adaptable person, eh? This is not to say you do not have
a temper, or lack in judgment; quite the contrary. When you riled up, you
can really let fly with things (but most, it seems, only on those whom you
are very close... you just don't see a point in ranting & raving for
anyone!) You have a very stiff point of principles in your life, and like
it that way. You'd prefer to live alone with your principles than to have
to compromise them to live with someone else. Your patience is strong &
deep, but once it's exhausted, it's exhausted.
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Very likely, you're an incredibly unpredictable sort, and rather
like that side of yourself. You may well call it "adventurous" or
"spontaneous" or "diverse"... but the bottom line remains that you are
very likely one whose sleep hours, diet & dress can vary wildly, compared,
say, to some of your colleagues whose lives you would feel might well put
you to sleep.
You learned early on that variety was the spice of life, and try
though you may to be 'ordinary', you're so much better at being your own
unique blend of XXXXXXX instead.
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You have a very quick mind and tendency to be involved in everything around
you. You are willing to offer an opinion on just about anything coming
even remotely near you, and have an ability to move fluidly across many
varying levels and stations of people & aspects of social structures. Your
attachment to any particular state or opinion is minimal, as you have
always prided yourself on your ability to transcend any particular
ideaology. This can make for identity problems sometimes if you tried to
deeply identify with any particular aspect of self, however, and you may
well be afflicted from time to time with what we might lightly refer to as
paralysis of opportunity... certainly more often than most people, merely
by virtue of the fact that you are always alert & scanning for
opportunities & connections around you.
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Another strong impression from your hand comes as a result of your
choice to write in all caps; this gives us the sense that you're rather an
outspoken and firm controller of the reins... looking at your sample in
conjunction with your daughter's gives a stronger impression as to why she
has chosen certain structures and forms within her hand. For instance:
you have a very strong and firm, though at the same time rather secretive
and held-back way of communicating... YYYYY, on the other hand, feels a
strong need to be heard and can, as I told her, be quite an intense and
expressive person for her age. This is very likely a direct result of
having had to learn to be strong & expressive over the beam & expression
you yourself put out to the world and her world around her.
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I'm sure you're a very popular and likeable employee, and one to be
admired as a model of efficiency & effectiveness as a secretary. The one
possible drawback can be your sharp tongue when pressed into defensive
posture, and your unrelentless willingness to press on in favor of justice
& the greater ideal!
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Though your strong sense of taking sides can sometimes make you a
formidable adversary from the view of your opponents, when you're working a
little closer to home and in the world of your family, friends and close
co-workers, you definitely have a playful and affable nature about you, and
can come across as genuine, open, and generous.
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Were you born outside the States somewhere, or was one or both of
your parents an immigrant from the British Isles?
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One of your traits which likely comes in handy in your work
environment is your ability to deal with stress and strain in quite an
effective manner, in that you are able to fairly well sail thru the hectic
little irritations of a day in favor of getting a job stewarded well to
completion. You may well be prone to neck strain & headaches, though,
because of your intense concentration.
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In other views... one thing which stands out pretty clearly from
your hand is that you're not very comfortable with social interaction in
general... it very nearly could be said to have terrified you since you
were in your teen years. Likely, you felt a great deal of criticism in
your early years, and it may be the case that you wondered who your father
might be, and that perhaps you never felt particularly close to him. A
part of your uncertainty about some of the social interaction & social
role situations may well be due to the lack of good solid reflection you
were able to glean in your teen years. Does this strike a bell anywhere?
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There is a little shakiness in your hand. This could indicate
that you writing on an uneven surface, or sometimes we find these traits
in someone who is currently on some sort or medication that may affect
the nervous system.
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It appears to me that you may also be on some medication for an
injury to your spine, or that you may have a neck injury. Is this the
case? Certainly these things will affect more than your handwriting;
they can affect your entire outlook on life!
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You were likely the youngest of a family, or raised at least as a
near-only child... if you have elder siblings, they were likely pretty much
out of the nest before you. As such, you had the opportunity to play the
'little girl' much longer than you would have had you had siblings of very
near age with you, and you are still quite accustomed to getting your own
way with things. You likely found that temper tantrums or odd emotional
tug-o-wars worked for you as an attention getting device as a child, and
though you have certainly learned as an adult that things don't quite work
that way, still you find yourself able and tempted to maniuplate those
around you with emotional and situational tug-o-wars.
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You don't tend to be the shy and reserved type, just sitting back
watching the world go by. Quite totally the contrary! You can hardly NOT
speak your opinion about things, and tend to move about in a flurry &
flourish of activity & energy, with few people able to compete with you
when it comes to striking up a good discussional topic. You have
absolutely no reservations whatever about speaking your mind, and can
really be taken to be pushy & overbearing by people who may not take the
time to understand or get to know you.
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You've given her quite a monolithic model to try to live up to be like, by
your very nature, and her tendency to be a very different type... quieter,
less tenacious about going out and grabbing the floor, makes for times of
uncertainty and self-doubt on her part, and a contant measuring of herself
against what she has seen of you & your life. Certainly you may see this
as no time like the present for her to get on out there and fly, but
perhaps a conscious commitment to some of the more quietly supportive ways
would find much stronger bonds in the long run. She is nearing adulthood,
yes, and you may have that tendency to push her on out there and say, "See,
Honey, I knew you could do it... but she is so very much different than you
are, and I hope you'll also consider the possibility that what she needs
much more right now than any overt guidance is a committed ear and
thoughtful presence which offers not overt guidance, but merely opportunity
to express herself in a safe space...
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You're pretty creative & well-set for someone your age. You
likely spent a good portion of your teenage years as a sort of moody
philosopher type, figuring things out and learning new ways to write your
personal treatises of the behavioral methods of the Human Race.
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You have a very strong sense of principles, and it's interesting
that you and XXXXX would choose to send your handwriting samples together;
you are so VERY different that it's hardly necessary to mention. She must
drive you nuts with her view of flexible principles, which you, in your
philosophical way would likely want to berate for their lack of depth and
commitment. She is, on the other hand, very likely something of a catalyst
for you, and able to give you that quiet little kick you need to 'Lighten
Up' and get on out there to smell the roses in her garden of variety &
activity / chaos!
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